COUNSELLING concentrates on a clients past and deals with healing emotional pain.
COACHING focuses on a clients present and future, with the goal of helping them to create and implement strategies so they can achieve specific goals in their life which will propel them towards their envisioned future.
In a COACHING relationship the emphasis is on goals, actions and accountability, the here and now.
In a COUNSELLING relationship the emphasis is on understanding and resolving the past for the purpose of healing.
What is Counselling?
Counselling is defined as “the process of assisting and guiding clients to resolve especially personal, social, or psychological problems and difficulties.” It’s a process that occurs when a client and counsellor set aside time to explore difficulties. The act of helping the client to see things more clearly, possibly from a different view-point. This can enable the client to focus on feelings, experiences or behaviour, with a goal of facilitating positive change. A relationship of trust and confidentiality. Counselling is a helping approach that highlights the emotional and intellectual experience of a client: how a client is feeling and what they think about the problem they have sought help for.
What is your “Emotional Elephant”?
We all have things that weigh us down, these things are our Emotional Elephants… They are our fears, pain, trauma, bad habits, learnt negative behaviours & thought processes, past failures, toxic relationships (past & present, unhealthy lifestyle habits, exhaustion, poor self image, and more…
Below is the list of Counselling Options I offer:
Anger can be caused by many factors. It’s sometimes triggered by external factors such as bullying, humiliation, and loss. Or internal factors, such as frustration or failure.
Anger is not always a reaction to a present circumstance. Sometimes a situation will unconsciously remind a person of a past experience. A person may then displace their anger about the past onto the present situation.
Anger typically has less to do with an event and more with how a person reacts to the event. Certain negative thought patterns often precede an outburst of anger.
The goal of anger management is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the physiological reaction that anger causes. You can’t get rid of, or avoid, the things or the people that enrage you, nor can you change them, but I can teach you how to control your reactions.
Building Self Esteem & Confidence
I will help you identify any unhelpful patterns that might be contributing to your low self-worth, help you create new ways to feel confident, and gently guide you in understanding your personal attributes. I provide you with the tools to build confidence in social situations. Self-esteem counselling will help you make sense of who you are, and help you integrate new healthier ways of thinking about yourself.
Counselling can be extremely useful in helping you, the client, discover the origin of your confidence issues. I can also work with you on creating small, incremental goals that help you to slowly build your confidence and your experience of mastery in the world.
Relationship & Marriage Counselling
Relationship counselling is the process of sorting through the differences that cause stress on a relationship. Once the problem is known, we aim to recognise, and reconcile the situation so that it can be managed better.
I work on understanding the problem faced by the couple, learning about their relationship history, targeting their emotions and working on the changes needed for a healthier and happier life. The breakdown could be because of a communication gap between them, overly high expectations, extreme involvement of the extended family, sexual issues, lack of trust and understanding. After the couple expresses their concern, I work to find the solution to build a happier relationship/marriage.
Communication issues can potentially develop in any circumstance or social relationship. It can be easy for individuals to misunderstand or misinterpret others. These misunderstandings can lead to arguments or tension in personal, platonic, or professional relationships. In some instances, conflicts may arise, and these conflicts can make communication even more challenging. when exploring the reasons why communication issues occur or while working through any distress or difficulty that occurs as a result of frequent communication issues.
Stress & Anxiety Management
Stress and anxiety can be unpleasant to deal with and has negative effects on your physical health if untreated for long periods of time. While some amount of stress and anxiety in life is expected and shouldn’t be cause for concern, it’s important to recognize when the stress in your life is causing negative consequences.
If you feel like you’re unable to cope with stress and anxiety we can try a few different approaches of therapy, to see which works best for you. Like Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, Exposure Therapy, or Systematic Desensitisation.
Conflict resolution therapy is an approach to treatment that seeks to teach people conflict resolution skills. It was designed primarily to help couples but can be used to address conflict in any situation, whether it arises in a family, between friends or romantic partners, at the workplace, or in any other situation.
The goal of conflict resolution therapy is to help all parties involved feel as if they have achieved a “win-win” scenario.
I teach conflict resolution skills to show clients how to redirect conflict without emotional detouring, it incorporates imagery and communication as the primary tools for exploration and resolution.
I teach skills that will allow you to unite when facing difficult situations, and encourage you to work together rather than combat each other in order to overcome difficult issues that may, if left unaddressed, lead to anxiety, depression, or contempt.
In the process of exploring these feelings, I can help those in counselling identify new behaviour patterns that can help them avoid engaging in negative actions and reactions in the future, and have more positive outcomes.
Coping with Narcissism, Gaslighting, and/or Emotional abuse
People with narcissistic personality disorder believe they’re extremely important and that the world revolves around them. They’re self-absorbed and don’t have time or interest in others unless it serves a purpose for them. They aren’t empathetic and don’t have the ability, or the interest, to understand what another person is feeling or experiencing. Narcissists crave attention and praise and can be demanding. They have grandiose views of themselves, their lives, and their futures, and they often use manipulation as a way of achieving their personal goals.
If you are dealing with a narcissist in your life or grew up with a narcissistic parent, you may have experienced ‘gaslighting‘. It is a form of persistent manipulation and brainwashing that causes the victim to doubt her or himself, and to ultimately lose one’s own sense of perception, identity, and self-worth. It’s a verbal and psychological abuse that is insidiously cruel, with the intention of making a person doubt their own sanity. It destabilises you and can make you wonder about your own memory or perception of reality.
I can help you sift through your doubts and fears and understand the realities of what you experience, teach you how to manage doubts and anxiety, and help you develop coping skills.
Developing Positive Habits
Habit-building is a useful way to approach many interventions, such as behavioural activation, relapse prevention, and self-improvement. I will teach you to use habits as a way if encouraging consistency in new behaviours, or as a way of replacing unwanted behaviours.
Positive habits are routines and processes that once implemented help to provide you, the client, with a regular dose of consistency. Which means a higher chance of success, of building a world outside of the sessions that feels comfortable and progressive.
Progressive, positive habits have been used for many years as one of the ways to reduce daily stress and anxiety. The act of engaging in positive routines or thinking has been in play and used as a strategy to combat many disorders like depression for many years, and has been recently implemented in many treatments for anxiety to help curb the mental stresses of coping with a mental disorder.
What is a Life Coach?
Life Coaching is defined as “partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximise their personal and professional potential.”
Essentially, it’s helping people become the best they can be, at home or at work, so they live a happy and successful life. This is achieved by guiding, mentoring and helping the client move in the right direction in their lives depending on what it is they want to achieve.
Since it covers such a broad scope you will find, below, the more specific disciplines that I specialise in…
Let’s figure out what direction you’re headed in!
What is a Personal Development Coach?
Personal Development covers all the activities that improve a person’s self-esteem, well-being and relationships. A Personal Development Coach will guide you through any (or all) of these. The coach needs to understand the client’s current state, where they were, and where they want to be in the future. After defining the areas that the client wants to improve, your coach will give you strategies to follow and encourage accountability, helping you every step of the way.
Do I need a Personal Development Coach?
A Personal Development Coach will help you discover your purpose in life. Typically people who need this kind of coach put others needs above their own, never getting to let go or be themselves. If you feel helpless in your situation, not in control of circumstances, or not having power over anything, then this is the coaching for you. It can help you discover your inner power! A coach holds up “a mirror” to encourage introspection which then allows the client to discern truths in their lives and relationships. The realisation will leave you feeling more fulfilled, happier and boost your self-esteem so you can feel better and live the life you want to live.
What is a Self Care Coach?
Self Care covers the treatment of the mind, body, and spirit. A Self Care Coach will treat their client’s with kindness and empathy, and help clear the mind of negativity. They will focus on increasing a person’s awareness of taking care of themselves so they can live a more organised and substantial life. Helping clients find a sense of direction to becoming their best life.
Do I need a Self Care Coach?
A Self Care Coach can turn your life around! A coach will help you to be more aware of yourself, to understand your strengths and learn more about your values and beliefs.
Do you feel like you could benefit from an opportunity to improve and better appreciate yourself?
A coach will assist you in setting goals properly, eliminate distractions, and guiding you to achieve those goals. If you want to improve your focus, change your mindset, prioritise goals, multitask better, and become more efficient then you’ll benefit greatly from a Self Care Coach.
What is an Anxiety Coach?
Anxiety Coaching is about teaching you anti-anxiety skills, providing support and accountability, and helping with motivation. A coach helps clients understand the science behind how anxiety works, teaches you how to calm your body and mind, and in turn how to break the anxiety cycle. The coach will manage physiological reactions and cognitive distortions, change negative behaviours and expose your fears. This will decrease the unhelpful type of anxiety while preserving the type that can be beneficial. This all happens in a supportive and empathic coaching environment.
Do I need an Anxiety Coach?
An Anxiety Coach will help you reach your best health and well-being by facilitating learning and understanding about what anxiety is and how it becomes so habitual. A coach will identify challenges, blocks and opportunities. It can benefit people with generalised anxiety disorder, panic disorder, social anxiety, adjustment disorder and separation anxiety by helping you, the client, develop coping skills to avoid unnecessary anxiety and manage situations where you might have to face anxiety.
What is Resilience Coaching?
Resilience is a person’s ability to adapt and bounce back when things don’t go as planned. A Resilience Coach helps clients optimise their health and well-being by developing and sustaining positive mindsets. Resilience Coaching will help you rediscover your compassion, clarity, conviction, and courage no matter what level of disruption you are experiencing in your current life.
Do I need a Resilience Coach?
A Resilience Coach will help increase your self-motivation and self-regulation. This will help you to build on your strengths, better navigate change, and build your psychological resources. Your coach can provide clarity, guidance, and strength of character which will all but ensure that you thrive in this ever changing world. Your coach will build your ability to react and adapt appropriately to life’s challenges, and turn them into forward momentum to achieve your goals.
Ok, sounds good… but why a Coach instead of another “aiding profession”?
Allow us to answer that question with a little story…
A guy is walking down the street when he falls in a hole. The walls are so steep he can’t get out.
A doctor passes by and the guy shouts up, “Hey Doc. Can you help me out?” The doctor writes a prescription, throws it down in the hole and moves on.
Then a priest comes along and the guy shouts up: “Father, I’m stuck in this hole. Can you help me out?” The priest teaches the guy a prayer to try and moves on.
A little later a friend walks by: “Hey, it’s me. Can you help me out?” So the friend jumps in the hole.
The guy says “Are you nuts? Now we’re both stuck down here!
And the friend says: “Yeah, but I’ve been down here before, and I know a way out.”
It’s very important that a Client and I are a good match in order to achieve the maximum benefit from the experience.
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